Friday the 13th is a great day. I found this fabulous blogpost #BestAdvice: “Pick Your Battles, or You Might Get Fired Like I Did” and I ended up reading it 4 times.
Why?
- One of my previous bosses also kept telling me to “pick my battles”
- Couching me is a touch one as well. I tend to take even constructive criticism way too personal.
- Like Lora I am Self-Righteous and don’t suffer fools easily
- Determination and persistence are surely written in capitals in my dictionary
- I can’t help myself but keep wondering what dog people would think I am :-)
As I read this blog a few times I am not sure the real learning is in “picking your battles”
There is this other piece of advice from Tim that seems even more crucial.
“Build Emotional Capital” I really love Tim his analogy of the empty jar!
Lora wrote: “Tim told me to imagine that each relationship was an empty jar. Each time you did something good for someone, you could put in a deposit. However, each time that you left someone feeling raw or badly from a conversation, there was a withdrawal. Unfortunately, in that work environment, I had more empty, than full, jars. I was a top performer and a hard worker. Everyone agreed, I got the job done. However, while my IQ was high, my EQ was low. I shrugged it off as being a woman in a man’s world, but it was more than that. I have struggled to improve my EQ for most of my adult life. For me, it has been a challenge.”
Now this is best advice at its best to me. It is so true and to some people this just comes more naturally than others. Yet the great thing is absolutely everyone can do this!
Can You Really Improve Your Emotional Intelligence? All studies I read say the answer to that question is an unequivocal yes. And when you step away from the term EQ and just think of that empty jar than it becomes quite easy to grasp, no?
So hope everyone will start working on filling up those jars, full jars look so much prettier than empty ones!
Image by ♔ Georgie R
